How to Heal a Broken Heart

Hello My Dear Readers,

I have been away for a little while because I have been busy producing a short film which I am really excited about. It is my first film production and I feel very blessed to be working with an amazing crew of talented people.

Today I want to share with you how I feel. After many years of not believing in love, three years ago I gave myself the opportunity to love again. Unfortunately my heart got broken (again!) recently. It has been a very painful experience, it only happened about a week ago, I have managed to keep myself busy and to keep a smile on my face so that people won’t notice the pain inside. With this experience as with every experience, I had a choice,  to wallow in self pity and hatred towards the other person, or to learn from the experience and subtract the most positive teaching out of it. I choose the latter.

I decided that this horrible pain I was feeling in my heart had to be used for some good. At that particular moment that I had that though, the universe cleverly guided me to read Paulo Coelho’s new book Aleph and in this book I found a very useful therapy to mend your heart or to make peace with the past. Hilal, one of the main characters in the book has to forgive past hurts and this is what she says:

  ” I Free myself from hatred through forgiveness and love. I understand that suffering, when when it cannot be avoided, is here to help me on my way to glory. I understand that everything is connected, that all roads meet, and all rivers flow into the same sea. That is why I am, at this moment, an instrument of forgiveness.”  (P168)

I found this so beautiful. I got out my yoga matt on the middle of my white ceramic floor, placed two white candles at each end of the matt, grabbed the book and opened it on the page where she utters a beautiful prayer of forgiveness. I too decided to become an instrument of forgiveness, I decided to learn  from this experience and to be a better, wiser person. Her prayer goes like this:

“I forgive the tears I was made to shed,

I forgive the pain and the disappointments,

I forgive the betrayals and the lies,

I forgive the slanders and the intrigues,

I forgive the hatred and the persecution,

I forgive the blows that hurt me,

I forgive the wrecked dreams,

I forgive the still-born hopes,

I forgive the jealousy,

I forgive the indifference and ill will,

I forgive the injustice carried out in the name of justice,

I forgive the anger and the cruelty,

I forgive the neglect and the contempt,

I forgive the world for all its evils.”  (p169)

It is so hard to forgive someone who has hurt you, broken your heart in pieces and showed complete indifference; but that person who ever he or she may be, must carry the cross of their own making, must reap all that they have sowed. We are responsible for our own life and cannot blame anyone when things go wrong. It hurts, yes, it hurts so much! but I am determined to come out of this situation a better and stronger person, having learned the lessons the universe so kindly teaches me at this moment. In the book the character continues her prayer as follows:

“I also forgive myself. May the misfortunes of the past no longer weigh on my heart. Instead of pain and resentment, I choose understanding and compassion, instead of rebellion I choose [writing]. Instead of grief, I choose forgetting, instead of vengeance, I choose victory.

 I will be capable of loving regardless of whether I am loved in return,

 Of giving even when I have nothing,

 Of working happily even in the midst of difficulties,

  Of holding out my hand even when utterly alone and abandoned,

  Of drying my tears even while I weep,

               Of believing even when on one believes in me.”

What a powerful prayer! beautiful indeed. If only you could see or feel, dear reader, the intense pain I feel inside. As I write this post, my tears pour out of my eyes to release the pain I feel inside.    

I will keep you posted on my journey and everything that is happening in my life. NOW more than ever I need to share my life with you, to know that there are wonderful people out there who love, cry, suffer and triumph just like me. And who are close to me by the matrix of the universe, sending me their love and good wishes, and supporting me with their kind energy. Well, I hope  I haven’t made you too sad, but it was my promise to share with you my life. Feel free to leave comments, advice or simply read my posts.

As always, I wish you all a wonderful day or night.

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8 thoughts on “How to Heal a Broken Heart

  1. So sorry to hear about your heartache, but so glad you’re turning it into a positive. I wouldn’t expect anything less from you. Smile and know that you are loved by many:):) I decided long ago that it hurts me more to hold onto unforgiveness than it hurts the other person. ~Blessings

    1. Hi Jamie,

      Thank you, knowing that there are people out there like you who love me and support me, gives me the strength to carry on and to be an instrument of love and positive change in this world.
      It is always best to forgive and to wish for blessings upon those that hurt us.

      With Love 🙂

  2. Madame i cant find the right words to described the pain you gone through. but on the positive side i’m very excited about your short film. Cheers Nonoy Manga

  3. Hi Maria,

    My heart just broke up on early last month. I’m so disappointed, and unable to release. We built our relationship more than 2 years, I’m so in love in him, with all my heart. I thought he’s my new sunshine after my previous failure to realize a wedding.

    We have arranged a marriage in May 2015. Bu you know what happened? He broke my heart up, all things we have planned suddenly messed up and he won’t to marry me 😦

    Now I feel like hopeless, sad, empty, loss of energy, feeling tired, feeling worthless, difficulty concentrating, indecisiveness. Feel like no more future. Unable to survive 😥

    I still love him, even after he did all those bad things for me. I still keep praying so that God send back him to me, he’s the one I need now to heal my heart.

    I still keep trying to call him, text him. But never got any reply.

    I wish you could give me an advise how to heal my broken heart. Thank you so much.
    God bless you.

    Romina

    1. Hi Romina,

      First of all I’m very sorry for your loss. All the emotions you are experiencing are perfectly normal, you have lost a love and the illusion of a future together. A loss of a relationship is like a death and you will need to take time to heal your wounds and go through a grieving period.

      You are wonderful the way you are – so the first thing you must acknowledge is that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. This man was not the right one for you and he showed it with his actions. Instead of praying for him to come back, pray for God to heal your heart, to teach you to love yourself again and take good care of the most important person in your life- YOU.

      The best remedy for a broken heart is time and to do new things, enrol in a course, go out with your friends, travel, keep yourself busy and every time you think of him remember the horrible thing he did and say STOP in your mind. You must take back your power, the time you spend together share it as a good memory but remember that you are the most important asset in your life.

      Do not give your power away to anyone. If a man in meant to be in your life he must demonstrate his love with actions. Never give all your heart away, keep safe it’s your greatest treasure. I hope this help and feel free to write to me or comment or ask any question.

      Exercise
      Pray
      Yoga
      Keep busy
      Do new things
      Read inspirational things
      Get rid of all the pictures, momentous or things that remind you of him.

  4. I was so surprised you replied me, thank you, thank you so much.
    All your advises are very helpful to enlighten me. Hopefully soonest I’m healed.

    God bless you.

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