Success Comes from knowing yourself and acting in accordance with your values.
The moment we deviate from our goals and values, that is when we dis-aligned ourselves from our true being and our life’s purpose, thus creating pain and confusion. The good news is that this in itself can serve as an opportunity to grow further. Therefore, take every failure not as a flaw in your character; but rather as an opportunity for growth and self mastery.
Just to give you an example of how by accepting our current situation (no matter at what stage we are) we allow ourselves true happiness and development. Because true peace and happiness can only really flow from within you. Women for example, and perhaps men as well find it hard to come to terms with our single/married/divorced/separated status. How so? you may ask, well… lets paint several life scenarios:
LIFE SCENARIO 1 – SINGLE
You have become recently single, or have been single for a while now, or for a number of years.
‘There must be something wrong with me! all my friends are either having boyfriends, getting engaged or married, or having kids. What’s wrong with me?! will I stay single for the rest of my life? I feel awful!’
And of course with this negative internal monologue, you are bound to feel quite down about your current situation. Comparing yourself to other people does not serve you in any good or positive way, unless you do it to motive yourself to move forward in life. Instead, you should accept your current situation and view it as an opportunity.
I realise that the universe is guiding me everyday. I know in my heart that right now is where I’m suppose to be in my life’s journey, therefore I will make the most of it. I will embrace the freedom that being single offers, I will get to know myself even better, practise a sport, travel, make a business, learn a new skill or language, or do anything I feel like doing. The world is my oyster, I am free as a bird!
LIFE SCENARIO 2 – MARRIED
You have been married for a year or 10 years, or longer.
‘I have no time for myself, I lost myself in this relationship. I can’t cope any more with so much responsibility, the kinds, the mortgage, the lack of sex, or him/her wanting sex all the time. I have no me time, I wish I was single and could go anywhere and do anything to my pleasing.’
Of course if you view marriage in such a negative light it won’t be a happy place but a prison.
Sharing my life with the person I chose is the most wonderful journey. I can always count with a hug, love and words of encouragement from my partner. When I’m down he/she lifts me up, it is so much easier to live with someone and share the financial responsibilities. We travel together, explore the world and our lives together and have great fun with other couples. Seeing my children grow is the best reward, I laugh with them and grow myself as well. My family provides me with such love and sense of security.
LIFE SCENARIO 3 – DIVORCED/SEPARATED
You recently got divorced or separated.
‘My life is over! I’m not good enough to be loved, what I’m I suppose to do with my life now? I have to start all over again and I don’t have the strength. I cannot believe this has happened to ME, I must of done something wrong. I feel lonely and depressed.
Life is not like in the fairy tales let me remind you of that. Sometimes we get married for the wrong reasons or to the wrong person. It happens to best of us. We grow as people, and as we grow and get to know ourselves better, over the course of life we realise that the person we are spending our life with, does not longer make us happy or vice versa. The most sensible thing to do is to move on. It is a lie that you cannot make it alone, on the contrary being divorced or being separated gives you an amazing scope of life and space to reflect upon your life and the direction in which you want to take it. You CAN start again, as a matter of fact is an adrenaline boost to be able to start anew, to reinvent yourself and direct your NEW you, and your NEW life in which ever direction you choose to.
So whatever life throws at you, have the certainty that if you know yourself well, and keep in touch with your inner being, all failures will be turn into successes. And all successes will not blind you from your true north.
Have a lovely day my dear readers.