The Shadow Self

“Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” ― C.G. JungReflection-210x300

 

 

 

 

 

 

The moment you start looking inside yourself life begins to make perfect sense. We are not competing or fighting with other, our biggest battle is with ourselves. Once we learn to look at our own reflection and accept all the parts of ourselves a new relationship with ourselves begins. Your validation as a human being should never depend on outside forces. On the car you drive to make you feel better, on the clothes you were to improve your self-esteem, in the job you have to make you feel important. None of this is important, the most important validation comes from within. From knowing who you are, from making peace with the past and learning from your experiences, thus obtaining more wisdom, acceptance of self and peace within.

imagesWhen your learn to truly love yourself for who you are, a wonderful journey begins, a journey that lasts a whole life time – until your last breath on this earth. The minute you begin to detach from all the material things, as well as outside acceptance and status; that’s the moment you become free. Embrace your shadow self, allow it to teach you the parts of yourself that need improvement or acceptance. Learn to know yourself and to embrace your uniqueness and individuality. Only then , can you really have an honest life. Everything will have more meaning and beauty.

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You hold the key to open the gates of your own heart. You alone are the keeper of your soul. You have been blessed with divine liberty to choose your life, to become the creator of your own earth. There is a universe waiting to be explored within yourself, have the courage to walk through those gates and explore the city within. It is a magical journey and I wish you a happy life of this plane.

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Success is to Know Yourself

Success Comes from knowing yourself and acting in accordance with your values.

The moment we deviate from our goals and values, that is when we dis-aligned ourselves from our true being and our life’s purpose, thus creating pain and confusion. The good news is that this in itself can serve as an opportunity to grow further. Therefore, take every failure not as a flaw in your character; but rather as an opportunity for growth and self mastery.

Just to give you an example of how by accepting our current situation (no matter at what stage we are) we allow ourselves true happiness and development. Because true peace and happiness can only really flow from within you. Women for example, and perhaps men as well find it hard to come to terms with our single/married/divorced/separated status. How so? you may ask, well… lets paint several life scenarios:

LIFE SCENARIO 1 – SINGLE

You have become recently single, or have been single for a while now, or  for a number of years.

HOW WE TEND TO FEEL.. 

‘There must be something wrong with me! all my friends are either having boyfriends,  getting engaged or married, or having kids. What’s wrong with me?! will I stay single for the rest of my life? I feel awful!’

And of course with this negative internal monologue, you are bound to feel quite down about your current situation. Comparing yourself to other people does not serve you in any good or positive way, unless you do it to motive yourself to move forward in life. Instead, you should accept your current situation and view it as an opportunity.

HOW TO MAKE THE MOST OF YOUR SITUATION AND FEEL GREAT ABOUT YOURSELF… 

I realise that the universe is guiding me everyday. I know in my heart that right now is where I’m suppose to be in my life’s journey, therefore I will make the most of it. I will embrace the freedom that being single offers, I will get to know myself even better, practise a sport, travel, make a business, learn a new skill or language, or do anything I feel like doing. The world is my oyster, I am free as a bird!

LIFE SCENARIO 2 – MARRIED

You have been married for a year or 10 years, or longer.

HOW WE TEND TO FEEL..   

‘I have no time for myself, I lost myself in this relationship. I can’t cope any more with so much responsibility, the kinds, the mortgage, the lack of sex, or him/her  wanting  sex all the time. I have no me time, I wish I was single and could go anywhere and do anything to my pleasing.’

Of course if you view marriage in such a negative light it won’t be a happy place but a prison.

HOW TO MAKE THE MOST OF YOUR SITUATION AND FEEL GREAT ABOUT YOURSELF…  

Sharing my life with the person I chose is the most wonderful journey. I can always count with a hug, love and words of encouragement from my partner. When I’m down he/she lifts me up, it is so much easier to live with someone and share the financial responsibilities. We travel together, explore the world and our lives together and have great fun with other couples. Seeing my children grow is the best reward, I laugh with them and grow myself as well. My family provides me with such love and sense of security.

LIFE SCENARIO 3 – DIVORCED/SEPARATED

You recently got divorced or separated.

HOW WE TEND TO FEEL..  

‘My life is over! I’m not good enough to be loved, what I’m I suppose to do with my life now? I have to start all over again and I don’t have the strength. I cannot believe this has happened to ME, I must of done something wrong. I feel lonely and depressed.

HOW TO MAKE THE MOST OF YOUR SITUATION AND FEEL GREAT ABOUT YOURSELF…   

Life is not like in the fairy tales let me remind you of that. Sometimes we get married for the wrong reasons or to the wrong person. It happens to best of us. We grow as people, and as we grow and get to know ourselves better, over the course of life we realise that the person we are spending our life with, does not longer make us happy or vice versa. The most sensible thing to do is to move on. It is a lie that you cannot make it alone, on the contrary being divorced or being separated gives you an amazing scope of life and space to reflect upon your life and the direction in which you want to take it. You CAN start again, as a matter of fact is an adrenaline boost to be able to start anew, to reinvent yourself and direct your NEW you, and your NEW life in which ever direction you choose to.

 So whatever life throws at you, have the certainty that if you know yourself well, and keep in touch with your inner being, all failures will be turn into successes. And all successes will not blind you from your true north.

Have a lovely day my dear readers.

Love Alejandra