The Shadow Self

“Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” ― C.G. JungReflection-210x300







The moment you start looking inside yourself life begins to make perfect sense. We are not competing or fighting with other, our biggest battle is with ourselves. Once we learn to look at our own reflection and accept all the parts of ourselves a new relationship with ourselves begins. Your validation as a human being should never depend on outside forces. On the car you drive to make you feel better, on the clothes you were to improve your self-esteem, in the job you have to make you feel important. None of this is important, the most important validation comes from within. From knowing who you are, from making peace with the past and learning from your experiences, thus obtaining more wisdom, acceptance of self and peace within.

imagesWhen your learn to truly love yourself for who you are, a wonderful journey begins, a journey that lasts a whole life time – until your last breath on this earth. The minute you begin to detach from all the material things, as well as outside acceptance and status; that’s the moment you become free. Embrace your shadow self, allow it to teach you the parts of yourself that need improvement or acceptance. Learn to know yourself and to embrace your uniqueness and individuality. Only then , can you really have an honest life. Everything will have more meaning and beauty.



You hold the key to open the gates of your own heart. You alone are the keeper of your soul. You have been blessed with divine liberty to choose your life, to become the creator of your own earth. There is a universe waiting to be explored within yourself, have the courage to walk through those gates and explore the city within. It is a magical journey and I wish you a happy life of this plane.


Happy Christmas!!!

I wish each and everyone of my blog readers, a wonderful Christmas filled with joy, health, peace, prosperity, family and friends. This is the best time to reflect on this year that is almost ending, in all the achievements and experiences not to feel bad but to be grateful for all that has been and to decide to be an improved version of ourselves. This way we can embrace the new year that is coming, with open arms, a positive frame of mind, and a will to take consistent action in order to achieve our dreams and make our world, and the world a better place with our contribution. Merry Christmas Everyone!!!


Resilience & Courage.

Most of us would like to have a smooth ride through life, to achieve all of our dreams and to have the perfect life. The problem is that life is not in any way lineal as most people would love to believe. Life is complex.

The most important lesson that should be taught at an early age is the power of resilience and courage,  without which it would be very difficult and painful to go through life. Every person is an entity, we have been given a body, mind and soul. Those three should be our most precious treasure. Everything  else that happens on the outside is circumstantial,  and circumstances change, and they change fast. One day you are happily married, the next your husband has left you, one day you have an amazing job, tomorrow you may be made redundant. Your great business could be lost along with your health and your love ones. So what guarantees do we have of anything? none really. Life is forever changing and we must learn to craft a character that will withstand the changes of life, the ups and downs.

A few nights ago I was asked: So how do you survive? what keeps you going? My answer was God, the power of faith, and always taking care of myself, knowing that no matter what happens in my life I have God and I have me. Every moment is a gift we must cherish and enjoy to the fullest, but at the same time me must learn to let go. Once the moment has passed is gone. Many of our sufferings as human beings are because we don’t live in the present moment, we are either too caught up in the past, reliving it again and again our minds; or we are dreaming of a future when we will be happy once we get this, that or the other. We should live every moment and every day as our only one, and make sure that we make it as happy as possible. Choose health, choose happiness, choose to anchor your security in yourself and in God or a power greater than you.



Finding the Courage.

When you feel you have lost it all, and you are broken and raw with no desire to go on, go on you must.

“What lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside you.” __Ralph Waldo Emerson



Finding the courage to deal with difficult and mitigating circumstances may  seem impossible when you find yourself in the eye of the storm. However, there is a resilience within yourself that when you tap into it, it will provide you with the strength and courage you need to move on in life. Believe in the power within, search for your inner strength and take one day at the time. Try to accomplish small tasks that will lead you in the direction of your dreams. Each day as you become loving and patient with yourself, you’ll find yourself getting stronger and moving forward. Take one step at the time, breath, believe, love and forgive.

Getting Rid of the Old – Building The New.

No Happy With Your Life? No Problem, You CAN Start a New & Build Your Dream Life!

Think about it, when you are first born life presents itself like a journey of discovery, like a white board in which you draw or write your experiences which start to mould your character and your perception of life. However, life is life! it doesn’t matter if you’re 12 or 20 or 40 or 60. What matters is that life is still there, the opportunity to make something new, to reinvent yourself and to write a new script is there waiting for you to grab.

What really stops us from having the life of our dreams are two things: 1) We are too stuck in the old mental patterns to think we can change, and 2) We don’t really know ourselves or know what we want therefore we can’t obtain it because we don’t know what it is we really want or have a plan to acquire it. But all this CAN be resolved. All it takes is for you to take some time out and spend it getting rid of the old in order to build the new.


Have a good look at your life and see how much crap you have allowed to get it. When I say crap I mean disappointments, past hurts, wrong notions about yourself, sadness, and other people’s opinions. All of the above constitutes stagnated energy which eats up at the core of your being. What you need to do is decide once and for all that your life is worth it, that you deserve happiness and that you need to get rid of the old so that you can start your grand design for your life.

imagesStart by writing in a piece of paper all the areas you which to change or improve. For example:

1. My body. I wish to lose 10 kilos.

2. My finances. I wish to change jobs and have a bigger salary doing what I love.

3. My relationship. I wish to find the right person, or end a toxic relationship.

You can literally change just about anything in your life but you first need to know what you want to change to then take the necessary steps to get rid of the old patterns. Life is a journey and you get to decide where it will take you. You have within you the power to change your life, do not wait for someone to come and rescue you or show you the way. Take action today, even if it is a small step, that’s the way to begin to take small positive steps towards a new and improved version of yourself. It always makes me happy to share my journey of development with my readers. Right now I am losing weight and creating new healthy habits for a life time. I was at 72 kilos and my desire is to go down to 48 kilos, I know what you’re thinking “that’s too much!” but believe me with my Latin curves this weight suits me fine. Every day I learn something new about myself it is an exciting journey of self discovery.

I hope you enjoyed this post, please leave your comments or questions. And as always I’m happy to write about a particular subject that interests you.

Wide Awake

You become wide awake when you realise and accept the truth. Denial is the worse enemy, it leads you to unreal illusions that only amount to disappointment and heart ache.

When you open the eyes of your understanding and accept the reality, then and only then can you let go and move on. As long as you remain attached to an unrealistic hope you robe yourself from the beauty of life and the chance to live fully and truthfully.



On a Warrior’s Face.

What you see are the scars of all my battles, I wear them with pride because they helped me to become who I am.

You see these arms? the same arms that lifted the ones that were down, those who  had no -one to help them, the very arms that have been a shelter from my own loneliness and fears.

You are perfect? I am not, I have made many errors and cried many tears. I have tanks of letters that I never send, but in each I  gave a tear away.

I am a woman, a warrior, a princess and a lover. Someone who will stand up 10 times if pushed 8, someone who will console those who cry, someone who will always have a positive word even though she is all alone.

I am not afraid, why should I be? I have me. Next time you see me, or a woman like me, realise we have been, are and will be, warriors with  faces  that will not hide their scars away, but wear them proudly because they emerge the tenets of  our souls.